I am OBSESSED with WordPress! I love reading blogs. I love writing blogs. My girlfriend can attest to this because usually I start a conversation a couple times a day with “So there’s this blog I was reading…” Followed by a playful “Imagine that” from EJ. So let me start this post out with… So there’s this blog I was reading…
It was the standard blog post about how people can be so ignorant about the LBGTQ community. But there was something that struck me that I had never read before.
My wife and I have been heckled in the street and spat on. We always consider where we are and who we are with, and adjust our behaviour accordingly in order to avoid drawing any unpleasant responses from people. It’s not a nice way to live.
~Laura Black – blackspotsite.com
It made me come to a bittersweet realization. I am very happy that I have found out that I’m gay. I feel more confident about who I am as a whole person. I am overjoyed that I’ve found someone like EJ. But I am also faced with the sad realization that I will probably be doing the same thing as Laura and her wife.
I will probably have to refrain from holding my girlfriend’s hand in public in certain environments. I won’t be able to just lean over and kiss her whenever I feel like in fear for our safety. I will never be able to introduce her as my girlfriend at church. Who knows if I’ll even be welcome. Which is sad because I really love that church.
I don’t know. Maybe I’m being paranoid. Everything is all peaches and roses at the moment because my Honey Bee and I are not faced with everyday idiocy because general public really does not know that we are lesbians.
The LGBTQ community has come a long way but it still feels like we will lead bittersweet lives of being proud and out but yet not really being able to be proud and out without being hurt.
Read Laura’s full post here: I’m a lesbian, therefore I hate men