As I watch the news in the morning or scroll through my Twitter newsfeed, I’ve come to realize that a lot of us are in need of something. Obvious and cliched answers float through my mind. You need a hug and you over there need anger management courses. You need to let it go. You need to be laid. And you need to be impeached.
Most of the time, I feel horrible as I sit behind the keyboard passing silent judgement (I would never have the balls to say what’s on my mind). I am very aware that I’m missing something in me as well. Life is going great for me currently. I’m the closest to God than I have ever been before. I have healthy and (most of the time) happy girls. My friends and family are the best and after I came out, they have been absolutely stunning. I’ve found the love of my life. And one of my lifelong dreams will soon come true as I am so very close to finishing my first draft of my first ever novel. So, what on Earth could be missing from my life?
Many times I feel bored and that boredom becomes paralyzing. I get too bored to write. I get too bored to play with my kids. I get too bored to talk to my love. I get too bored to fellowship with God. This becomes maddening to me because I am so very busy. How could I ever be bored?
In the mornings, I read three different devotionals on my Bible app I downloaded on my phone. One of the devotions I’m reading is called Financial Fitness by Rick Warren cuz let’s face it… I am TERRIBLE with money. I’m getting better at it but I still have a lot to improve on. I digress.
The devotion I was reading one particular morning titled ‘Use Your Money to Grow Your Character‘ gave me an A-HA moment (one of my favorite moments to have). I really loved this lesson because it talked about growing your character (in case you didn’t figure that out by the title) in different ways with your money.
Pastor Warren’s suggestions included purchasing Christian books and CDs. Even purchasing classes to learn a new skill. What a great idea! I got bored with life because I wasn’t investing in my life. Relationships with God, my kids, my partner, my family and friends are very important. Don’t misunderstand when I say I was bored with the connections earlier in this post. But I found that I was interacting with them in the same way. Talking via text, mundane talks about how everyone’s day was. Things of that nature were getting me down.
Investing experiences with all whom I love is what I should be doing. Learning new skills so that I can bring more to the table during conversations is what I should be doing. Encouraging my children to invest in themselves and others around them is what I should be doing.
This isn’t only a Christian thing either. Whether you’re atheist, agnostic, Buddhist, Muslim, or worship the spaghetti monster, you should be investing in your character.
Going out and experiencing life is another way to enrich your character. Go to the new Thai restaurant that you’ve always wanted to try. Go to that art gallery that you’ve always wanted to go to as you drive by everyday on your commute to work. Talk to actual human beings (this one will be a toughy for me being an introvert and all). Ask your kids what kind of experiences they would like to have and make their wishes come true.
You might find out a little something about yourself and your character. And that’s always a beautiful thing!