Posted in dealing with stress, Work

All the Lovely Things

“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” -Philippians 4:8

I have been thrust into some stressful situations as of late. Work is overwhelming. So very
very overwhelming.  I decided to turn to the Bible.  I try to not use the Bible or prayer as an Emergency Only thing.  This is something I have to work on.  But as I was in the throes of battle, I googled “bible studies for dealing with stress.” I clicked on Coping with Stress on the

One of the first scriptures was Philippians 4:8.  I didn’t finish the study guide because I had to actually do work.  But this stuck with me.  Think of all the lovely things in your life when it becomes stressful or overwhelming.  That worked awesome yesterday.  I had all the lovely things that happened on Monday fresh in my mind.

I had a wonderful day with family even though my sister and I had a little spat when she found out my intentions to move to New Zealand temporarily.  I promise that is for another post.  We Skyped my nephew who is stationed in Germany.  We went to the restaurant my niece works at and had yummy milkshakes. We ate pizza and I played video games most of the night.

Then I woke up and there was a storm.  I love storms!  Another lovely thing.  Then I went to work and then it got harder to think of the lovely things.  I came home to the news.

A Father of 5 is Killed by Cops…
Think of the lovely things.

More than 2400 women are sexually assaulted by doctors without them knowing it…
Think of the lovely things.

A Deadly Kidnapping Happens at a Walmart…
Think of the lovely things.

I sent a text to EJ saying that I was trying to think of the lovely things but it’s hard.


Posted in God, lesbian, Relationships, Work

All Caught Up!!

No more overtime for me! This means more family time. More God time. More blog time. More ME time!!

The weather is gorgeous. God is good. My kids are awesome. My Honey Bee is beautiful. My life is pretty blessed currently!

I’ve had so much to blog about but I’ve never had the time. I would come home and just crash in my recliner and spend the hour I had left before my babies had to go to bed.

Do not fret. I am back and I have much to write about!!

Posted in Relationships, Work

Equal Opportunity Employer

I am working overtime on some weekends because we are so far behind. This new system sucks.  It wouldn’t suck so much if I was actually trained on it and not teaching myself how to use it.  But this is not what this post is about.

One of the doctors was on call this particular Sunday.  She is a very nice lady.  But she does make all the support staff do more work than necessary.  She saw me at my desk and came in to ask if I was here working extra because of her.  I told her no and it was because the stupid system is stupid.  Well, maybe I didn’t tell her like that but that’s sure what I was thinking.

She went on to ask me how my kids were and she asked me if I am married to their dad.  I told her no.  She asked me if he was married.  She thought I could get back together with him.  I said he’s married to someone else.  She let out a sigh that she felt bad for me.  She asked me if I am with someone else.  I told her I was.

Doctor:  Is he nice to you?  At least, somewhat.

Me: (without skipping a beat) Yes.

I led her to believe I’m with a man.  She is a traditional Catholic woman and it sounds like (by the way she asked if “he” was somewhat nice to me and word around the water cooler) she’s in a traditionally unhappy marriage.  I really don’t want my employers to know that I’m gay.  It has NOTHING to do with me being ashamed of it.  It has to do with job security.  I really don’t know how my employers are with gay employees.  Personally, I only know of myself being gay.  I don’t know if any of my co-workers are.  I just don’t want to stir anything up until I know for sure how would be treated and not until I’m married at least.  I can’t deny I’m with a man when I introduce EJ as my wife at work functions.